Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Speaker - Educator - Coach - Author
Pioneer in High Conflict Relationship Therapy
Hi, I’m Jenni McBride McNamara. I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Minnesota, and a High Conflict Relationship Coach, Consultant, and Speaker.
I encourage you to read-on to learn about how my own personal journey evolved into the first ever self-help program for those seeking freedom from a high conflict relationship.
Like many of you, I have worn many hats. Originally a school teacher with a graduate degree, I married and became a spouse and parent, too. I eventually realized life had dealt me a high conflict relationship - though I didn't know to use those words at the time. I started a new chapter in my life when I divorced, and I went back to school to become a therapist to help others.
When I found myself in a high conflict relationship, I didn't know what to do. I had to carve my own path. I studied and read lots of books. But there wasn't any material out there for an individual going through this experience. I wanted practical strategies, from a trained therapist, for someone like me.
This is the basis for why I do what I do. I've pioneered the conversation around high conflict relationships -- for the individual, as opposed to the couple. Because ultimately, the individual wants to be free and happy. The individual wants a life where this isn't happening to them.
Many people want to know, "so are you happy now?" My answer: Yes, I've found freedom and happiness! I am happily married and we together we live in Minnesota with dogs, cats, chickens, and the kids (when they find their way home). I love gardening, walking, and photography.
A licensed marriage and family therapist and a pioneer in the growing field of high conflict relationship therapy.
In my work, I have noticed and interpreted patterns and cycles in high conflict relationships. I have developed and tested strategies that change those patterns and cycles and help clients feel like they’ve gotten their lives back. Knowing how, when, and why we should change our reactions to high conflict people can free us and allow us to manifest who we really want to be.
HIGH CONFLICT RELATIONSHIPS: Rescue, Recovery, and Restoration - A Proven Blueprint for Understanding High Conflict Relationships, Finding Your Emotional Freedom, and Living Your Own Inspired Identity
As a result of my own journey -- and finding little help geared towards me, the individual -- I developed this self-help program for those seeking freedom from narcissism and other high conflict relationships. This program focuses on the individual and provides tools so you can understand your situation and affect real change.
This can be an amazing first step in educated yourself about high conflict relationships and learning immediate strategies to improve life right now.
Jenni is a published author, speaker and coach to both individuals and professional organizations. She is highly sought-after by clients and clinicians for her innovative and proven techniques and her commitment to educating and helping those affected by high conflict relationships.
Jenni is a published author, speaker and coach. She currently assists both individuals and organizations with therapy services, speaking engagements and formal coaching. Jenni is also developing a High Conflict Relationships Program for clinicians, so they, too, can learn proven strategies to help their clients.
The "Touching The Trees" Story
“This is the story she most wanted to tell me; the one she wanted me to remember. Touch the trees… During my grandmother’s easy-chair telling… I could feel the bark under my own fingers, maybe oak or maybe maple, each tree unique– each tree there long before her time and each tree there, serving as a witness to her life, after she left… Like my great-grandmother, I believe it’s important to touch the trees when you say goodbye.”
Excerpt from Touching The Trees by Jenni McBride McNamara
(And how I came to write)
When I found myself unemployed and anxious after divorce, I fell back on the only skill I had: writing. I'd been out of the workforce for so long, I had no marketable skills. Being able to herd children and make quick, toaster oven meals wasn't exactly in high demand.
So I started writing. I wrote about my divorce. I wrote about the changed vision of myself. I wrote about everything I saw, felt, experienced, and thought. The result was my first two books: Touching the Trees and Cape of Leaves.
I loved finding my voice. And, I loved that my kids saw me pursuing my passion. They are as engaged in the creative processes as I am...even though they have no interest in actually reading anything I write, thank goodness, for now.
I see my books as stepping stones for connecting to others. They aren't just for me. They are to do good things for the people and the world around me. I'm always floored (and incredibly grateful) when I get an email or a hug from someone who says I've captured their thoughts and feelings.